Passion is the enemy of precision.

[katekat]

My father is going to have heart bypass surgery in three weeks.  He's not exactly relaxed about it all, but he's not worried.  I called him fatalistic, but he didn't really like that label - although, seriously, his attitude is that he's getting it done, they do these things all the time, and there's nothing to do but what he's doing, so that's what he's going to do and he's not going to worry about the rest.  And even though there's no sense of predestination in that particular attitude, he's so ... remarkably unruffled about the whole thing that there's nothing really to do but stay unruffled in response.  Which is probably a good thing.  Ruffling is bad.  I cannot imagine my father ruffling anyway.

I wonder if my father's ever seen The Zero Effect.  Not that he'd accept the whole Holmsian-speed-using-passionate-rationalism that pervades that - but the quote seems far too apt. 

Work is weird, but fine.  School is good, slightly slow, but ramping back up again.  The kitty is cute, the boy is cute, i am... me.  So the world proceeds apace.

Comments

[elizabuffy.livejournal.com]

you're also cute :)

And eek! about your dad! I was going to email you about it tonight, but you beat me to the punch.

That does seem like a fairly good attitude to go in with (well, at least that's been my attitude). I hope all goes well! *crosses fingers*

~e!

[ladyforash.livejournal.com]

I wish your father good luck, and here is a :HUG: for you!

[biodamped]

My thoughts are with you and your dad, and good luck. My mum's been in & out of hospital most of the year with heart issues, it can be pretty scary to think about at times. *hugs*

[that_mireille]

*hugs* My thoughts are definitely with you and with your dad. Sounds like he has the right attitude, though--he's right, worrying won't change anything. (I wish I had his ability to stay calm!)

[http://users.livejournal.com/woman_of_/]

Love your fathers attitude! The Mad comic books "What Me Worry" down to a tea

[mishloran.livejournal.com]

Yeah, heart bypasses are fairly routine quick-in-quick-out jobbies now, but they're still serious so vague "shouldn't I be ruffled? I should be ruffled, shouldn't I?" feelings are totally normal, you know! But the main thing to do is to stay positive and have the attitude of your dad. 'cause a positive mental attitude does go a long way to recovery, I think. But then I am not a doctor, and failed A-Level Biology.

I have never seen this The Zero Effect.

Love you pet! Miss you, too! *snuggles et lovin'*

[dara-starscream.livejournal.com]

(hugs tight) You're cute too, remember? ;-)

You and your pa are in my thoughts.
-BJ

[tx-cronopio.livejournal.com]

Both my parents have had that in the past two years. It IS scary! But also quite routine these days...brave new world, eh? So I'll hope for the best.

One alert, a frequent side affect is severe depression afterwards.

[antennapedia.livejournal.com]

Good luck to your dad. He probably does have the right attitude: keeping his stress low will help him recover. Hooray for cuteness around you!

[lazyangel.livejournal.com]

Best of luck to your father for his surgery! I'll be sending good vibes to you and your family :)

[lostgirlslair.livejournal.com]

::sends good thoughts to you and your dad:: And, I think, that's a good attitude to have. ::huge hugs::

[katekat]

thanks darlingest one.

he does have that kind of 'tude and i am grateful for it, and as for the rest, we'll take it as it comes, right?

[katekat]

Thank you sweetheart. I really appreciate it, very much.

[katekat]

*hugs you back* thank you. It's just no fun at all, is it, no matter what way you look at it? I hope your mom's doing ok though? thanks for the hugs, too.

[katekat]

thanks lady - he really does have the best of all attitudes, the best part is that it's not a front, that's really how he feels. I wish could have his perspective too - but it's been a carefully cultivated kind of thing over the years - it's like it's his special secret power, you know?

[katekat]

Absolutely. :)

[katekat]

*squishes you*

you're right about the whole routine factor of the bypasses, and they do lots and lots of them at his hospital too. I thnk the only person who's having the "shouldn't I be ruffled?" (or maybe "shoudln't you be ruffled?") reaction is my little sister, who's 15 and lives with them, and is all ready to freak out, but kind of confused because my dad and stepmom aren't, you know? But yeah, I hope he will recover quickly. I like to think he's too stubborn not to. I definitely get that from my dad.

You should IMMEDIATELY go out and rent it. Especially if you like Ben Stiller. It is teh AWESOME. And boys like it too - watch it with Mark if you guys have movie time. I'm serious about this, I think you will adore it.

LOve you too darling woman!!! sorry i've been a bit otu of it - this is definitely part of it. :( but it's ok, it's the way of things at times.

[katekat]

*squishes you* thanks lady. i'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed on this one, but it should be pretty ok. anyway, thanks for the supporty stuff - it's mucho appreciated.

[katekat]

Thank you lady - it is simultaneously scary and routine - disconcerting to say the least. And thanks for the heads up with the depression - will keep an eye on that and tell my stepmom to keep an eye on him too.

[katekat]

Thank you sweetheart, for everything.

[katekat]

Thanks lady.

[katekat]

thanks sweetest. i agree - he's in a relatively good place, all things being equal.

[biodamped]

yeah, really it's all bad.

but mum's doing ok now. thankyou for hugs in return. ;)